Okay. So I come from a very conservative background. If my family or friends find out that I was on Tinder, they’d FREAK.
But why was I on Tinder? One might ask. Well, I have been single since I came to Cebu City-that’s 3 years ago. I only know people from work, or with what little network that might offer. But I do not date people from work. I’ve tried it, and I discovered what ‘shitting in my own backyard’ meant. NO MORE OF THAT.
I will not divulge any names, or things that we did. I’m not gonna talk about the app itself, either. I will be sharing my experiences of having met different people through Tinder.
I am such an introvert; I like doing things on my own, such as watching movies, beach bumming, shopping, dining and the like. I mostly stay at home and pirate movies off Yify and watch the freshly downloaded ones all day long. If there is such a thing as a bed potato, I’d be the epitome of that. I mostly just go to work, movies/errands/house, then work again. That’s how I lived my life.(Now that I’m writing it, it seems so boring, but I actually find enjoyment in my alone time so don’t feel sorry for me).
In a way, the bed potato-ness took it’s toll on me and I actually got bored. I felt lonely that I’m unable to have actual conversations with an actual human being. Also, I wanted to try new things. And with all the overthinking of this problem,
TINDER WAS THE ANSWER.
I mean, it was the most efficient way to broaden one’s network. However, it was tricky for me. I am known to be picky when it comes to men. So, I only swiped right 10 times for 3 straight days constantly on Tinder. But that changed eventually, when I decided to lessen my picky-ness. So I probably get 10-20 matches a day. It amazes me how interesting I can be online (I was actually impressed with myself then).
Since I was very interesting, these men wanted to meet me in person. Good Lord! I don’t know how I feel about that. A lot of things came into my mind:
- I might be too awkward in person that I may not seem as interesting as I was online.
- I might turn them off because I’m not exactly tall, I’m very petite. Which makes people doubt my honesty when I tell them my age. My baby face doesn’t help, either.
- It might actually be a scam or some weird shit like that, where they’ll rob me or something.
- OR—It might just be a pyramiding strategy.
It took me a while to actually meet someone in person. But I have considered a few safety measures:
- Choose a public and crowded place
- A place that’s very familiar to you
- Do not go somewhere else with them
- Do not jump in a car with them
- Do not let them know where you live/work (for non-stalking purposes)
The first time I went out with someone, it was a bit awkward. I didn’t know if I was supposed to act a certain way or not. Was there a right way to do these things? And yet again, I am unforgivingly myself. I didn’t care much at all how a stranger thinks about me. So I just went with the flow.
As soon as the adrenaline rush of meeting someone new on Tinder wore off, I constantly agree with people to meet up with. Which became a bit of an issue, as I felt like I was such a player. I was with a different guy each week. Sometimes, 2 different guys each week. I became more comfortable with being more close and personal with these men, so I get more matches and I get more dates. I was on a roll!
But something happened that I did not expect. I got attached to someone I have met on Tinder. This blew my mind! My Tinder game took me to a whole new level that I did not expect. I mean, this guy is such a gentleman. I didn’t know men like him still exists. He got me like no other. He got me so bad, that I actually got rid of Tinder. I got rid of all the other men who would line up just to meet me. I was actually getting serious with this guy. Things were progressing well. But the more you spend time with someone, the more you get to know them. And rarely, the more you get to know them, the more you wish you didn’t. You can get the guy out of Tinder, but I guess, you can never get Tinder out of the guy…
So much for my Tinder acquisition, and the false hopes it brought. I eventually grew tired of all the dates and random heartbreaks. My inner introvert surfaced like it never had. I got rid of Tinder and FB Messenger. Now I’m back in my own little cave, with all the movies I can watch, books I can read, youtube videos i may or may not finish— life is good.